As a social worker, people say some truly unexpected and personal and surprising things to me. This post isn’t about those things, it’s about those things that get said to me time and time again that always amuse and/or annoy me.
I like it when my clients tell me:
A) that visiting their children and going to counseling twice a week “is like full time job”
B) some people have to work
… Like, I know, that’s why I’m talking to you.
Then there’s my non-client interactions which can be either way too similar to my client interactions or a laughably stark contrast. I’ll be talking to a family member or someone making a report and they’ll be trying to quote a client and they’ll be like “is it okay for me to use the words they used… can I say a swear word to you?” I’m like, yeah, people are usually swearing AT me so I can handle you quoting someone who swore 😂.
Anyway, those are just a couple things that have come up repeatedly, next time another one pops up I’ll probably do a part 2 and document some small piece of this ever-interesting job of mine.
My brother and I come from a non-traditional family and we never had those huge family gatherings many families had. One time we definitely went had take-out Chinese for Thanksgiving and another we spent at the buffet our mother worked at. So, it’s only natural that we’ve formed our own non-traditional traditions as adults.
Four years ago we started Sibling Thanksgiving, eating shrimp and grits and tri-colored pepper stir-fry over quinoa in my Hampton, VA apartment. I was a vegetarian, well, pescatarian actually, at the time, but since that Thanksgiving I’ve had two children, moved to Maine and we’ve been making all the usual foods for our Sinling Thanksgivings. Pregnancy made me crave meat and I was pregnant for most of the last 3 years. Anyway, it has evolved and there are five of us at the table instead of two, but we still break have our own spin.
For the past two years we’ve taken a hike after breakfast and before getting dinner ready. It wasn’t an intentional thing, but now that we’ve done it twice I think it’s a THING. So, when normal people (and my husband) are watching football on the couch, we’ll be tromping through the cold woods somewhere. But, while normal people save the eating for dinner, we made a super decadent breakfast this year (which also made a great base for leftovers). It was a sort of hash I dreamed up and my foodie brother made the poached eggs and the suggestion to cook everything in the bacon fat. So for Thanksgiving brunch we had a sweet and gold potato and ground turkey hash cooked in bacon fat with poached eggs on top and bacon on the side. I put a whole sweet onion in the hash as well as two cloves of garlic and cooked it down so much you’d never have known except for the flavor.
^the hash, the original, the leftover hash breakfast, the hiking selfie
I hope you all had a happy Thanksgiving and I’d love to hear about your own non-traditional traditions!
Samuel called Benjamin “Bubba” tonight and I almost died because 1) it was so cute and brotherly love and he is using his words and all of that and 2) I may have a child whose nickname is “Bubba”
Hey guys, This is a terrible iPhone timer picture of my outfit today. And it’s an iPhone 5s that I have to delete stuff from just to take a picture because I have 1300 photos and 112 videos of my kids. But, I was excited that my $8 clearance shirt got 3 compliments by 830am… I’ve been trying to wear more color and patterns because my standard uniform is solid pants, a solid tank and a solid open cardigan and 2/3 of said uniform is generally neutral colors. But I’m pretty frugal when it comes to clothing, so I was happy to find this budget-friendly top to brighten things up. The pants are actually $7.78 full priced no boundaries jeans from the Walmart juniors section and seriously they are so comfortable and stretchy and fit perfectly and are a reason all their own for making a Walmart trip if you are like me and fit better in juniors than women’s and the high wasp waisted pants that are too big everywhere but the waist. Check them out, I’m preaching to all of my friends about the wonders of $8 jeans.
It can be frustrating to dress for work when you are 3 months post-partum and don’t want to spend much (really any!) money on clothing that you are fervently hoping won’t even fit in a few months.
I am typing one-handed while holding a breast pump flange in the other hand so I’ll wrap this post up, but hopefully someone else benefits from this jean discovery. Yes, I seriously think I discovered normal looking Walmart jeans for under $8. Maybe it’s because my friends are either too cool to check out the clothing section at Walmart or they don’t shop at all because they think they can’t afford new clothes.
What is your most budget-friendly wardrobe hack?
One great way I’ve found to distract from the parts of my body that haven’t quite recovered from baby #2 is to put more effort into making my outfits interesting and accessorizing. I feel like a fupa just feels more polished with a pretty print over it ;). Today I threw on the polka dotted tank and was about to reach for an open gray cardigan when I realized that I could make things a lot more interesting with a sheer flowered layer. And I’ve got to give credit to my coworker for turning me on to these Kiss nails… the learning curve was a bit steep for someone like me, but I managed to get them all on and I think they look great! Now I’m just going to throw on some gold sandals and I’m off to work. I’m really lucky to have a very casual business casual dress code.
But I’ll leave it for now.
So, hey guys, I’ll say as if anyone is still reading when I disappeared for almost two years, ha! Basically everything has changed… Sam is about to turn two and he has a little brother now who will be 3 months old the same day! I’m working full time as a social worker and have been for a year and a half now. I thought I’d revive the blog to chronicle my attempts to get back in shape (running!), dress the body I have right now, and meal plan and budget for my busy family of four.
It’s late for me and tomorrow is my first day back at work after maternity leave (FMLA anyway), so I just wanted to pop in and announce my intentions for now. I’ll be back soon hopefully with my first day back outfit and my meals for the week!
Im pretty sure that the all day long snuggles and play that Sam’s clinginess demanded today straight up bathed my brain in oxytocin because by the time I laid him down a few minutes ago I was blissful with renewed wonder and love for my sweet baby boy. The same baby boy who didn’t let me pee or eat or use the remote with my hands (yay for feet!) for hours on end is the recipient of a ridiculous amount of mommy love. Babies are little tricksters. Sam was smirking the whole time I ate my dinner while sitting at the foot of his swing because he knew he was the boss. And I found it amusing.
Just look at my little bunny foo foo, he was so sweet during his photo session!
These were done at JCPenney, i was pleasantly surprised at how well they came out!
taking a shower every other day and still having to do it in two parts so that you can go soothe the baby in the middle.
staying up after the 430 am feeding so that you can have that cup of coffee and do the dishes and laundry and take out the trash. And that’s if the baby goes back to sleep after.
considering guests to be people to whom you hand the baby while you take a shower that actually involves shaving your legs.
planning to run an afternoon errand all morning and then having to put it off because the baby is fussy.
working so hard to not doze off during the third middle of the night feeding and still not napping while the baby naps during the day because that’s your chance to finally eat a real meal and cut your fingernails and pay bills.
Being ON 24/7, but hey at least with all of the hard times you also get all of the sweet times and baby snuggles.
My Age: 1 month
My Height: 22″
My Weight: 9 lbs
My Likes: baby bouncer, play gym, tummy time, eating, snuggles, bath time, being swaddled, being worn (baby carrier), pacifiers
My Dislikes: diaper changes, sponge baths, dairy & soy, having lotion put on
Accomplishments: I smiled! Posed for newborn pictures, started sleeping in 3 hour blocks (mostly)